10 sure signs that you are listening

10 sure signs that you are listening

One of the common behavioural changes that leaders commit to make to their coaches is to listen better.

Sounds like a good intention indeed. The question that coachees and ask is this: How do I know that I am getting better at listening.
In general, how do I know I am listening well?
 
Waiting for 360 feedback can take a while. Leaders and Coachees need a simple way to know that on a daily basis they are inching forward – they need a check-list of sorts to self-monitor.
So, here is my list of ten visible behavioral indicators that you are listening well.
 
This could be a one-on-one conversation, at home with you children or your spouse, or with a colleague or team member or a team meeting or a review.
 
I hope you find this useful and even build on it.
 
  1. When you are device free during the conversation
  2. When you talk less (say 30% of the time only)
  3. When you talk 3rd or 4th – certainly did not go first
  4. When you are able to paraphrase the content of what others said
  5. When you are able to paraphrase feelings
  6. When you are able to summarize the meaning that you have made of what the other persons said or are going through and you do it a few times.
  7. When you are able to ask good questions
  8. When you are able to pick up the unsaid and unexpressed
  9. When the most silent person in the room says something
  10. When the people in the room have impacted you emotionally and you feel connected

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